LITTLE KNOWN WAYS TO HELP SOMEONE WHO FEELS STUCK

Since I was a little girl, my friends would come to me for advice whether it was boy trouble, fashion, heartaches, growing pains, next steps or problem solving.  As an attorney, they came to me seeking professional help but I uncovered that some had deep seeded issues that were creating more problems in their lives.  Whether it was personal or professional, I found a common theme why people were stuck in life. What I found was that they were falling victim to their limiting beliefs, which were consuming them.  That is, If you grew up feeling unloved, unworthy or not enough these were limitations that wouldn’t go away because you consulted a professional to “fix.”  In order to move pass your “problem” you need to understand that in order to change your life, you need to get out of your own way. 

I have been stuck in my life as well but learning how to get out of my way has allowed me to create a life in my terms.  As a coach, supporter, counselor or friend, I have learned to approach the “problem” slowly.  I lend an ear but when the conversation starts becoming a pity party, I have learned to re-direct their attention.  I help guide them so they can find the answers within themselves. Just like the saying goes, “you can lead the horse to the water, but you can’t make it drink”. 

Following are 10 tips on helping your client/friend/your audience get unstuck:

1. Ask them to remember a time when they felt unstoppable.
2. As soon as they recall that moment, ask them to look within themselves and identify why they think they felt unstoppable during that time?
3. After listening to them what steps they took to become unstoppable tell them they always knew
4. Encourage them to Implement those same steps
5. Encourage them to meditate to help get clarity and peace
6. Encourage them to take courses in self-development
7. Encourage them to seek a spiritual adviser or coach because we all need guidance of some sort
8. Encourage them to journal their thoughts
9. Have them keep track of their wins and what is working in their life
10. Repeat steps 1-9
11. 10 Repeat for at least 60 days so that this practice becomes a habit

The key is leaning into fear because on the other side is opportunity waiting.

As my coach says information is cheap but transformation is priceless. Imagine what gifts you have that your tribe is waiting for you to unleash.  It is so comforting to live within the bubble but that is not the place where true growth and gifts reside.